7 tips to overcome camera shyness

FROM A Chicago wedding photographer

Hi! My name is Raul Nieto. I am a Chicago wedding photographer specializing in authentic storytelling, preserving heartfelt emotions for couples on their special day.

Being camera shy is more common than you think. Especially when you’re planning one of the most photographed days of your life. As a Chicago wedding photographer, most, if not all of the couples I’ve photographed are not professional models — and I don’t expect them to be. I’ve worked with many couples who were nervous at the start, but ended up feeling confident, relaxed, and even enjoyed the process of getting their photographs taken.

Let’s dive into 7 tips that can help you overcome camera shyness and actually have fun while being photographed.

Choosing the Right Photographer is Key

Your photographer will be the BIGGEST impact of this entire process. It’s more than just picking someone who takes pretty pictures or has the right price — it’s about finding a photographer you can connect with. Most importantly — share similar values. Someone who gives gentle guidance, helps you feel seen and even makes you feel like you’re enjoying the process! I always recommend to set up a video call or meet in person to feel out the vibe. If you’re relaxed around your photographer, you’ll naturally feel more at ease in front of the camera. Trusting your photographer will go a long way.

Tip: Do not be afraid to ask how they guide shy clients. Their answer should feel reassuring and not intimidating.

do an engagement session first    

Think of the engagement session (often months before the wedding day) as a stress-free trial run. It’s just you, your fiancé, and the photographer — No timelines to follow or crowds of guests. This is where you get a glimpse of your photographers rhythm: How they direct you, interact with you and make you feel while you’re being photographed. Many of my couples often say they actually enjoyed their engagement session and I made it much easier than they expected it to be. From this session, you won’t be surprised on your actual wedding day of what to expect from your photographer.

Bonus: These photographs are often used for save-the-dates, wedding websites or large prints that are displayed in the reception area.

Communicate that you’re camera shy

While this one may seem obvious and perhaps not sure if it’s necessary to say, It totally is. If you’re feeling nervous, tell your photographer! It helps us tailor our approach. While my style is to photograph candid moments, I will always give gentle prompts or fun actions that focus on natural interactions - which’ll make you feel like yourself.

P.S. You’re not confessing a flaw; it’s about working with who you are by having clear communication and making it a fun experience!

Focus on Each other, not the camera

You’re not performing — You’re connecting. One of the easiest ways to overcome self-consciousness is to focus on your fiancé. Whether you whisper something sweet, look into each other’s eyes, or just be yourselves — This is where genuineness will be captured. I’ll guide you when I need to, but the goal is to capture unscripted moments as they happen. Some of the most beautiful photos happen when my couples forget that I’m even there for a brief moment.

wear what feels like you

What you wear will impact how you feel. I recommend choosing clothes that you feel good in — not just what looks cute on Pinterest. Whether it’s a formal dress or your favorite jeans and t-shirt, wearing something that matches your style will make a difference.

Tip: For engagement sessions, avoid busy patterns and logos. Stick with solid colors that complement the settings. I help with this part, so don’t worry :)

prioritize a portrait session on your wedding day

Wedding days move fast, often times unexpected last minute things occur. Between the ceremony, family formal, and the reception, it’s easy to squeeze in time for a portrait session. This time is essential, especially for camera-shy couples. When you carve out time for this moment — You can breathe, settle in, and actually enjoy the moment with your newly wedded partner. This is often my favorite part of the day. I strongly recommend setting at least 20 - 30 minutes for this part of the day.

Tip: Speak with your photographer early about building portrait time into your timeline. Golden-hour portraits between ceremony and reception start time are always a favorite.

Trust the process and have fun

Let go of the idea of “perfect” and embrace the imperfections. Some of the most cherished photos come from the unplanned moments - a shared laugh or even a goofy dance move. Be yourself and have fun! When you trust your photographer and focus on your moments, your natural beauty and love will radiate through those photographs.

Feeling camera shy? I’ve got you.

If you’re planning your wedding and want a photographer who’s all about making you feel comfortable, relaxed and like yourself - I’d love to connect with you!

Reach out by filling the inquiry form below.

Chicago wedding photographer specializing in authentic storytelling, preserving heartfelt emotions for couples on their special day.

F.A.Q’s

  • Depends on the season and the location! The biggest one is to avoid busy patterns and logos. Whether it’s a coffee date, formal attire or a walk in North Avenue Beach - we’ll talk it through!

  • The best time of day for these sessions are sunrise sessions — Where only dog walkers are out. While avoiding all people is not always the case, especially in popular areas - My job is to make you feel comfortable anywhere :)

  • I incorporate lots of natural movements - walking, talking, cuddling. The more you interact with your partner instead of my camera, the more candid and authentic your photographs will feel.